Relationships Management

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First, tick the items which best describe your needs, concerns, goals or challenges:

  I'd like impartial feedback about my interpersonal communication practices
  Too often I flag away or discount my own needs for the sake of peace, to avoid arguments or conflict
  I want to become more assertive
  Other people's demands cause me a lot of stress
  I need to say No more often and more confidently
  I want to set and hold boundaries with others
  I find it difficult to give honest feedback
  I find it difficult to hear criticism or negative feedback about me
  I am often misunderstood
  Instructions I give are not carried out as I want them
  I want to be able to make complaints or report dissatisfaction more confidently
  My communication style is a problem for some people
  Ways I express my feelings seem to make it hard for others to hear them
  I speak up but my viewpoint is disregarded
  Other people tend to "dump" their problems on me
  I'd like to be more approachable
  I'd like more respectful and honest relationships
  I often misunderstand others
  I'd like to become a better listener
  I'd like to know who owns the problem
  I want to be better at supporting people to deal with their problems
  I'd like to modify some of the unhelpful attitudes I have towards myself (or others) in relationships
  I find conflict and differences difficult to deal with
  I want to reduce the level and incidence of destructive conflict in my life
  I want to be more effective when others become emotional, hostile or distressed
  I want to be less "stewed-up" about things which bother me
  I tend to suppress my feelings
  I tend to make others' problems my own
  I am often angry with other people
  Sometimes, when angry, I lose it and go over the top
  People seem frightened to tell me the truth
  I don't get the feedback from others I want and need
  I find it hard to receive feedback or criticism
  I am told I am hostile, indirect, or that I sulk

Other needs, concerns, goals, challenges or interests:

Next, complete these statements, where possible, to record some of your strengths:

My interpersonal skills are best under these circumstances:

Things I am confident about in this area of my life, include:

Despite unclarity about some things to do with interpersonal communication, I am clear about:

Any further comments you would like to make: